How do you measure your success

My life could have tuned out very different if people in my life accepted what doctors and educators told them.  At one time, the things that are done now would have never been accepted and noticed due to the fact that it was not considered normal in most of the world’s eyes.

If I had accepted things in my life as they were, my life would not have turned out the way it has so far.  Imagine going through life thinking you were perfect and not realizing that there were areas that you needed help with?   The longer you don’t recognize and these areas, the more difficult your life will be in the long run if you don’t seek out and get help to make things easier.

That was me once upon a time …. If it has to be this, there’s no way in HELL I’m going to do that NO! NO! NO WAY!   

 I once would have told you that I would have said if I can’t to it this way, I’m not going to do that at all.   Where would that have gotten me? I’ll tell you it would of not of gotten me very far.  There would have never been any improvements, just acceptance and not the good kind of acceptance but kind of a resigning myself to that’s just how it is and we cannot do anything about it. 

This is how my life would be….

I was born July 9, 1984 with complications that would leave me with some disabilities, a physical disability called cerebral palsy and some learning disabilities caused by the cerebral policy.  Now naturally that means I will never do anything without assistance.

What if….  Mom and Dad reacted with disappointment and resignation.  “What are we going to do?”  They would say I guess these are things that we are going to have to accept.   She is going to need a lot of care because as the doctors said she is not going to be able to anything that we can do.  She will have trouble walking, and talking.  She may have to me home schooled.   She won’t have very many friends other than family, and will probably be placed in a group home with other people who are mostly different.  She won’t be able to live independently.  We won’t be able to do what we want, when we want, having to take a vote on almost every option given to us to make the decision on her future that is being suggested.”

The options to the paths, roads whatever you want to call them, can change.  You might have to go back and remind yourself that maybe I need to look at the small picture so that the big picture does not look so foggy and does not turn into “it’s impossible“.  If you have the passions for something you should never give up on them and through patience and drive you can be as successful as you are capable of becoming.   Sometimes there are changes that you need to make in order to achieve success.

It is very rare that you end up doing what you dreamed of as a kid and that your hobbies turn into your dream job.  If I had not taken the chances that I did, my life would not have tuned out as it has so far.  Success does not always come by how much you earn or by the status of your job but by all the times you succeed when no one thinks you can instead of taking the easy way and just settling because you are afraid to fail.